Private and Boarding School Costs in a Divorce Settlement

Private and Boarding School Costs in a Divorce Settlement

Payment of school tuition, costs, and fees can be a challenging issue to handle in separation and divorce. It is common for parents to disagree about the necessity of private or boarding school education or who is responsible for covering the costs. However, when the family structure changes, maintaining the stability in schooling can be essential to helping your child navigate the divorce. 

Communication with the School

You should communicate with your child’s school about the changes to your family. Teachers and counselors need to be aware of the shift so that they can be on the watch for indications that your child is having difficulty. This will also make them more likely to be understanding if your child has behavioral or performance issues. Many schools offer specific support to children during a divorce, so you want your child to have access to all the available resources.

Communication with the school is also crucial to ensure that tuition and fees are paid in a timely way. It’s easy for notices and bills to be lost during this time of change. No matter what the payment arrangements are, it’s a good idea to ask to receive all statements and notices yourself so that you can monitor if they are being paid. Clear communication with the school as to which parent is responsible for paying the costs is crucial once the court determines this. 

Child Support and School Costs

Child support will be an important part of your divorce case. Not only will child support be established for the long term, but it is likely that once your case is filed temporary child support will be ordered for the pendency of the case. Both temporary and permanent orders of child support can include educational costs. 

In New York, child support is established using a formula that considers each parents’ income. Child support is not intended to cover all of the child’s expenses, however. New York courts establish an amount for child support, and then the court can also order the payment of additional ‘add-ons.’ Add-ons can include the costs of education, child care, and medical care.

Education costs can comprise many things. These can include:

  • Uniforms
  • Tuition and fees
  • Transportation costs to and from school and to and from activities
  • Sports equipment
  • School supplies
  • Room and board
  • Private lessons and tutors
  • Instruments
  • Extracurricular activities
  • Computers and technology
  • Additional costs such as yearbooks, photos, admission to events, etc.

When calculating the cost of your child’s education, be sure to create a comprehensive list that includes these items. 

Education costs could be split between the parents on a pro rata basis, or one parent could be ordered to pay all the costs or all of certain enumerated costs. The parents could also be held responsible individually for specific costs, such as one parent paying tuition while the other pays all other related costs. 

The Necessity Private or Boarding School Education 

If the cost of private education or boarding school becomes an issue that the parents can’t agree upon, it is up to the court to decide. The standard used in this situation is the best interests of the child; however, the parents’ ability to pay is a significant factor. 

Factors that a court will consider in determining if private education is required include:

  • The parents’ educational backgrounds
  • The age and grade of the child
  • The current enrollment of the child and how long they have attended that school
  • How the private school education compares to the quality of education at the public school the child would otherwise attend
  • The financial resources of the parents

While a private school might provide the best education possible, a court will not order that unless the parents are able to reasonably afford the cost based upon their respective incomes. The child’s individual needs are an important consideration. Each case is weighed on its own merits and circumstances. There is no blanket requirement that private or boarding school be paid for as part of child support. 

If the parents themselves attended private or boarding school, this would weigh in favor of the child attending private school. If a child is presently in a private or boarding school at the time of the divorce, the court is likely to expect the parents to continue that level of education. However, if a child is not in a private school or does not attend boarding school, the parent seeking that placement would need to show the court why it is necessary or in the best interests of the child. 

If a child has special needs, it is helpful to present evidence to the court about those needs from teachers, medical professionals, educational evaluators, and therapists. A child with specialized needs may require a specialized education. Presenting a strong case with reports and testimony about the child’s needs is essential. This is important for children with educational disabilities as well as children who are gifted. 

If your child attends boarding school in another country, it is important to provide evidence as to why the location of the school (and the added expense this brings) is necessary. Important reasons can include either parents’ nationality, family ties in that country, a second home in that country, or the child’s development of language skills specific to that area. 

Previous Discussions about Private Education

Sometimes parents come to court having previously discussed private education or boarding school. One parent may claim the parties agreed to send their child to this type of school. New York courts have held that this type of agreement is not relevant in the determination the court will make about education. The court is only interested in making a determination that is in the best interest of the child. Whatever the parents may have said to each other or allegedly agreed to is not of concern to the court in deciding what type of education is warranted for the child. 

Your child’s education is crucial to their future success. Ensuring that your child receives the best education possible is of great concern in your divorce. 


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Dror Bikel

Dror Bikel founded and leads Bikel & Schanfield, New York’s best known firm for high-conflict matrimonial disputes. A New York Superlawyer℠ and twice recognized (2020 and 2021) New York Divorce Trial Lawyer of the Year, Dror’s reputation as a fearsome advocate in difficult custody and divorce disputes has led him to deliver solid outcomes in some of New York’s most complex family law trials. Attorney Bikel is a frequent commentator on high profile divorces for national and international media outlets. His book The 1% Divorce - When Titans Clash was a 5-category Amazon bestseller.

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